An example of this is being called a "Nice Guy" I use to hate being called that but a few years ago I decided to own it. I am a nice guy, I can't change who I am and I shouldn't be ashamed of it. You know the saying "nice guys finish last", well it's a true statement but I wouldn't want to be any other way.
I like being a nice guy, I like that people know that they can rely on me. Yes I may not achieve huge success or wealth because I'm unwilling to be cut throats.. and yes I have been taken advantage of from time to time but that just goes along with being a good person.
Another more recent example is being told I look "good" or I look "fit". Now I've been working out for over two and a half years and I can see some changes in my body but I still have a difficult time believing them. I only see my flaws and when I do catch myself at a certain angle in a certain light I can see improvements but I usually just see the bad.
Why is it easier to believe the mean & negative things about yourself rather then the good. Is this just me or do other people find this to be true?
Someone once said "Don't try to be a great man. Just be a man, and let history make its own judgements."
ReplyDeleteYou are a good friend. Kind, caring, competent, insightful, and honest. You are someone that people can rely upon to be 'real' and not the fakeness that you find in Hollywood. The people who cannot see that are not worth worrying about.
Everyone has vulnerabiliites and insecurities about aspects of their life, and no one is skilled in all things. And we all hide those feelings from everyone except those we truly trust. So if you think everyone else exudes more confidence than you, that only means they are either better at controlling their fears, or, you are allowing yours to appear more apparent.
If people that you honestly trust tell you how they really 'sse' you, then listen to them because you trust them, right? Why would they lead you astray? And if all those whom you trust are giving you the same feedback, then I believe that is serious confirmation!