Can't I Find A Normal Guy?!?!?

So I've been hitting Tinder, Chappy and Cuddli (dating apps) pretty hard this past month as well as paying for Compatible Partners (e-Harmony's answer to gay dating), but I'm not having any luck though and the ones I do connect with either never respond to my "hi" or we start a conversation and it just ends after a few comments.

My latest (yesterday) was from Tinder..

I matched with this guy, he's cute and a dermatologist.. he starts the conversation with "Hey how r u", I say "fine, just waiting for my workday to end". He responds with "Great.. What do you do for work". I tell him "I'm a post production supervisor for TV, how about yourself" He says "Dermatologist". I say "Very cool".. about an hour passes and I say "I see you like to travel, have you been to anywhere unusual?" He responds with "Not really. Mostly usual places" I then respond with "What's been your favorite" and he doesn't respond for five hours and then he send one word "Bottom".

In my head I'm like.. well thank you for letting me know but no where in our conversation were we going there.. unless he was speaking code that I wasn't aware of it or he was talking to several guys and accidentally texted that to me. Either way.. I wish I could just have a regular conversation with someone before it turns to sex. I know sex is important (especially for gay men, gotta be compatible) but I'd like to get to know the person at least a little bit before we have that conversation. When guys immediately jump to the top/bottom conversation it tells me that all they are interested in is sex and I'm not looking for a hook up.. I'm looking for someone to spend the rest of my life with. Is it to much to ask to find someone who's doing the same?

I may be living in the wrong city to find the kind of guy that I hope to spend the rest of my life with. I just want a sweet, kind, good-hearted, hard working, honest guy.. is that to much to ask for?