Tuesday, December 14, 2010

Looks Aren't Everything

First let me say these aren't random thoughts.. something will happen in my daily life and gets me thinking. So I decided to try and put my thoughts into words and blog about it... blogging is a great way to get things off my chest.  This isn't the first and won't be the last of these kinds of blogs.

I've struggled my entire teenage and adult life with they way I looked. I am short, a little over 5"3' and I've always had an issue with it. I was made fun of as a kid and before I was out of the closet I had difficulty getting a date with girls because most woman (not all) don't like short men . Besides being short I'm stocky as I like to call it. I top just over 200lbs and doctors tell me that I'm obese, according to their medical standards. So I'm a short stocky obese male. Beauty/Handsome are subjective to each person but there are what the general populace would consider beautiful or handsome and I wouldn't consider myself either

It's funny as you get older you realize there is more to life then the way you look. It's unfortunate that it can take years and years to reach that point. I think once I came out at 27 things changed and I started to look at myself differently. Luckily for me the guys I liked weren't into tall, dark and handsome, they looked beyond that and saw the beauty within. I accepted that I was going to be short all my life, there really wasn't anything I could do to change that. I also accepted that I am stocky.. I'll always be stocky, even when I lose weight I'll still be broad shouldered and stocky.. it's just the way my body was built.  As for being handsome, I've accepted that isn't in the cards for me. If someone doesn't like me for the way I look then they are not worth my time anyways.

It's taken years but I'm finally happy with myself, I like the person I have become.

7 comments:

  1. you are right kenny. your energy and love of life has always made me think of you as one the the hansomest men i know !

    ReplyDelete
  2. You're a beautiful person mate, inside and out. I'm honoured to know you as a friend.
    Markus,
    PS. I hope you still did your daily workout :P

    ReplyDelete
  3. As we progress through life we realized that we need so much more than physical attraction. You could be the most gorgeous person on the outside, but if you don’t have intelligence, personality or character; you are empty and ugly on the inside. Besides, not everyone likes the same physical type; look at our community, we have twinks, bears and everything in between. You are beautiful where it counts…everywhere!

    ReplyDelete
  4. Thanks @emptynest5 @Markus & @Dave for those very kind words. I have some of the bestest friends in the world.

    ReplyDelete
  5. You're handsome Kenny, especially with the trimmed beard and buzz cut :)

    ReplyDelete
  6. Thanks Erlend for the kind words :)

    ReplyDelete
  7. I'd definitely agree with you Kenny, what I have noticed myself as I meet people or even just see them on TV or whatever else is that looks are just the first thing that you notice about people, they form an initial impression. I'll admit it at first if I find someone attractive I'll probably pay more attention to them but as you get to know them better or see them in different situations how they act and respond will change how I see them, if they are arrogant or conceited it really doesn't matter anymore how they look as how they act ruins it, whereas if you see someone who is kind or humble or genuinely friendly it matters less and less what they look like as the beauty of who they are and how they act overshadows what they may look like. It is just a sad statement on our culture that alot of people don't ever bother to look beyond the surface. This is especially true I have found with actors/celebrities the ones that are honestly interested in what they do and what their fans think are the ones I am going to follow (Amanda Tapping and Felicia Day jump to mind although I know there are many others) where as others out for fame or fortune I'll either dismiss or avoid.

    ReplyDelete