But I think that it's difficult to flirt when you are gay. The majority of gay men aren't obvious, it's not like we have a symbol or a certain look that would signify that we are homosexuals, so you really don't know which guys are gay and which are straight. If I think a guy is flirting with me I ask myself are they flirting with me or just being nice "straight" guys, and the last thing you want to do is make a straight guy uncomfortable or a fool out of yourself or even worse yet get the crap beaten out of you for assuming.
This is probably why I don't really "pick up" anyone and tend to lean more towards online dating (when I dated). But I have been assured recently that I actually do know how to flirt, which made me happy to hear but I think that's mainly because I know the guy I'm flirting with is gay. But strangers that's a complete different story.
I have the same problem, honestly. I'm good at "entertaining" but not really flirting or picking up people. In NYC it's weird because mostly, I can usually make an educated guess as to whether someone is straight or gay, but I don't like to assume anything unless the person actively has identified themselves as much. I haven't gotten interested in a gay man, but a lot of people (when it comes to casting), think I read as a lesbian, so who the hell knows!? HOW ARE WE TO DO THIS?! Hahah :) I, too, rely on online dating to find people to go out with. Then everyone's intent and interests are generally more clear at the outset.
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